My first thought was, at what point in time does a person begin to feel a strong need to be accepted?
When do we come into existence?
Is it the moment when we experience the deepest sorrow of being rejected?
Is this the point at which we start to face challenges in sports?
Is it the moment when we succumb to the ever-present phenomenon known as “peer pressure”?
Is it when we find ourselves falling in love?
When we begin a new job, is that the time?
When do we become a new member of a family? Is that the moment?
Does it happen when we relocate to a different country or city?
It is the moment when we compose our very first book.
Because I believe that it is all of the above, I believe that when people have the urge to be accepted, they will go to great lengths to achieve their goal of being accepted.
In order to achieve victory, athletes and body builders will resort to the use of substance abuse.
Our entire being yearns to be accepted by our partner when we find ourselves falling in love with them.
It takes authors a significant amount of time and effort to compose the perfect words that will satiate their audience, and they will go to considerable measures to ensure that their work is published.
When a person joins a family for the first time, whether by marriage or adoption, they will feel a strong need to be cared for and treated as a part of the family who truly belongs.
There is a certain acceptance requirement associated with beginning a new job; we need to feel like we belong in order to be able to relax and give our whole attention to our work.
For us, moving to a new nation or city, or even simply to a new area, is a very trying experience. In order for us to successfully settle in, it is very crucial that we are accepted and that we are able to fit in.
It is important to remember that peer pressure is a challenging issue. Children who are just beginning their high school careers are the ones who are most affected by this issue since their hormones are fluctuating and their emotions are extremely sensitive. All of the worries that they have been struggling with for the last year are brought to the forefront, and they have a great deal of reality to consider and deal with. It is more than half the battle for them to be accepted by their peers and to fit in with the group.
When we are infants, we have a strong need to be accepted by our parents and to see their smiles when we manage to make them happy.
For the first time, the anguish of not being accepted is like a knife that slices like a knife. It is a wound that lasts a lifetime, leaving a scar that we wear for the rest of our lives.
All of these concerns, needs, and desires are present in each and every one of us who are alive and breathing. To a lesser extent than others, some of us experience the desire to be accepted. Some of us are unable to function without being accepted; as a result, we become preoccupied with our thoughts and do everything in our power to conform to the norm.
In any of the things that I have written here today, have you come across the phrase “self-esteem”? In every single sentence, you can find it. It is possible that the need for approval has an effect on our self-esteem, which in turn has an effect on our emotional stability, which is where feelings of jealously, concern, and anxiety originate. If you are familiar with the sensation of not being accepted or having low self-esteem, then you are aware of how much power you have over the concern that tends to follow these feelings and how much of your life is held captive by that other mind.
In essence, low self-esteem and non-acceptance are merely “another mind,” and one can literally sense them engaged in a conflict with one another. It makes me think of the situation with the good devil and the bad devil. Not only do they have to find a way to balance the two brains, but they also have to deal with the guilt that they feel when they realise what the consequence of the struggle in their heads is doing to the people around them. Trust me when I say that it is not fun for the person who is imprisoned by it. For a person who is already suffering from loneliness and anguish, the repeated enquiries that they are asked, such as in my blog FEELINGS!!!!, are an additional source of pain.
Also, if anyone out there knows someone who struggles with poor self-esteem or non-acceptance, please give them a hug and try to be more patient with them. It is important to understand that they are not having a picnic and that if you were to simply say “stop it” or “just don’t think about it,” they would stop it in a heartbeat. We are all in need of support and acceptance in order to get through the difficult times. It is never helpful to kick someone when they are down because it never helps them get back up.
Through my website and my blog, I am doing everything in my power to educate others and assist them in comprehending what low self-esteem is all about, as well as how intense and serious it is. In the event that any of you ever have any enquiries, please do not hesitate to get in touch with me or leave a remark, and I will try my best to provide a response.
